Although this is a well known and incorporated trend, I got to thinking on this recently and more so, whose fault is it that such a thing happens.
Now, I’m talking about the trend in romance genre books to vilify the ex of one or both of the characters. Now this can be anything from something mild as the person took the main character/s for granted all the way up to the classic abuser/evil person. It seems if an ex is shown in a positive light, they are often dead and then details slowly emerge to show the dead ex is actually a bastard/evil person in disguise.
Rarely do you read about someone having a loving, positive relationship that unfortunately ended for whatever reason and the people have moved on. Now it has happened! Don’t get me wrong and as soon as I wrote that I thought of a few books where the ex is now the best friend. Also an exaggerated idea because where are the ones where there is no real drama, the relationship just ended but no thanks, lets not be friends. We saw each other naked and in the realm of immaturity, we now need to ignore the others’ existence.
Why does it seem there are only exaggerations in past relationships? And really, who is to blame?
Are the authors to blame for continuing this (imo horrible) theme or really, are we the readers to blame? Here I think it’s partially because readers demand and want the romance/relationship they are reading to be “THE ONE!” This has to be TRUE LOVE, all caps, and be the end all / be all relationship. All others have to pale in comparison to the connection, the love, and the sex of this relationship. The music has to soar, the angels weep and the sex flows until the end of the time. It’s definitely romantic and it’s a HEA for sure.
But to get to that, do all past relationships have to be either evil or now your best friend you never really fit with anyway?
So come on, I really want to know. What are your thoughts?