With the wankfests going around on the blogs (and well they always go around, new week different wank), it’s important to remember that reviewers are just readers with opinions. Hopefully articulate and well-written opinions but in the end no reviewer should ever influence a writer on the “correct” way to write anything.
Just as there are those readers that crave historically accurate books, there are an equal number that won’t care if the Mr. Darcy character pulls out a cell phone to call his love interest in the historical setting. This can be applied to every single genre, theme, and content. I can – and do – point out books I think are bad for various reasons but I guarantee you every book I hate, there are several who LOVE that book to it’s very core.
When going over the current wankfests about “right” way to write BDSM, I think this quote from TeddyPig says it all (hope it’s ok to repost):
I think it’s OK to say “that is not my personal kink” but I don’t run around lecturing people on the “proper way” to write BDSM stories. I might discuss reasons for my likes and dislikes and provide other fact based sources for research but that is different.