In the realm of m/m romance, there are an unending list of do’s and don’ts. Most of these stem from real or made up ideas of reality. For example, anyone who visits this blog regularly knows that I just hate the whole stacks of white hand towels by the bed thing. I mean, who does that?! Seriously if you do, please step up and I’ll immediately shut up about this.
However I’m also seeing in reviews when readers claim that the men fell in love too fast. They had sex, it’s not love!
But, isn’t it?
Now not to insult anyone, but I know a few men who really do feel the whole sex=relationship idea. I’m sure there are equal number of men who say sex =/ any kind of relationship but it makes me wonder why this is such an issue in m/m fiction.
I actually think this is one of the closer ideas to truth than the hand towel (yes that again).
To find out the truth, I consulted the Cocktease who is known to have spies in every sector and is the all knowing computer of all things. In this case, I was assured that actually yes, gay men are known to fall in love based on great sex and that’s it.
I do think that to stay together for an extended time, there has to be SOMETHING besides great sex. Especially when you consider in fiction one guy is usually an asshole, a criminal, has a rigid homophobic family, a psycho ex-wife, crazy fag hag, etc – the list could go on. When one guy (or both) has baggage, great sex can’t be the only answer. Don’t forget to factor in that fiction tends to exaggerate concepts of reality on purpose too. After all readers want to relate to the story but often reality is nowhere as enjoyable as fiction.
So, is it true?
Do you require more connection between your men because it suits your idea of romance, or you think it’s more realistic?
Do you think two men who fall for each other because of great sex aren’t really in love?